Introduction:
You’ve danced through the baraat, posed through the pheras, and now the mandap has been dismantled. What’s next? Real life. Together.
Setting up your first home as a married couple is exciting, emotional, and (let’s be honest) sometimes overwhelming. You’re blending two lives — habits, styles, and routines. Here’s how to start your “Ghar Basaana” journey without drama.
1. Don’t Rush the Pinterest Dream
Everyone wants that picture-perfect couple apartment or home. But real life isn’t an Instagram reel.
Start with the basics:
- A clean, comfortable bed
- Functional kitchen setup
- Storage that works for both
You can upgrade the vibe slowly with plants, photos, and décor that reflects both your tastes.
2. Make a “His-Hers-Ours” List
Combine the best of both worlds.
- His old bean bag stays? Maybe.
- Her fairy lights from hostel? Definitely.
- New mattress? 100%.
Make a shared Google Doc to list what each of you is bringing in and what you want to buy together. Keeps it organized and respectful.
3. Plan Your First Big Buys
Start with “must-haves” over “nice-to-haves.”
| Priority | Items |
|---|---|
| ✅ Must-Have | Bed, basic utensils, wardrobe, curtains, fridge |
| 💡 Good-to-Have | Washing machine, dining set, TV |
| 💸 Luxury Later | Sofa, AC, home automation, wall art |
Pro tip: Buy from the same marketplace and ask for a combo discount.
4. Divide Household Responsibilities Early
Don’t wait till resentment builds up.
- Alternate cooking days or order-in nights
- One does dishes, the other manages laundry
- Cleaning can be a Sunday couple task (with a playlist!)
Bonus: Use apps like Notion or Tody to divide chores without sounding naggy.
5. Create a “Couple Budget”
Money talk can feel awkward, but it’s important.
- Set a monthly savings goal
- Open a joint account for shared expenses (rent, bills, groceries)
- Use expense trackers like Splitwise or Walnut
Having financial clarity early builds long-term trust.
6. Set Boundaries with Families (Respectfully)
Whether you’re living independently or with in-laws, decide early:
- How often will you visit both families?
- Who makes key decisions at home?
- When do you need “just us” time?
Healthy boundaries = happy relationships.
7. Don’t Forget Romance in Routine
Living together can turn love into logistics. So:
- Have a “no-phone dinner” once a week
- Plan small surprises (a handwritten note or a midnight Maggie treat)
- Celebrate little wins — “Hey, we paid our first rent on time!” is a vibe
Final Thought:
Building a home together isn’t about expensive décor or perfect routines — it’s about making space for each other. Laugh at the mess, dance in your pajamas, and make your home a place you both belong. After all, the real shaadi starts here.
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